Indecisiveness Is Standing Between You & The Life You Want To Live

'Fortune Favours The Bold' - John Wick

This quote made its way into my life and it really struck a cord with me when I needed it. It reminded me that it's not about how beautiful you are, or how hard you work. Life happens for those who are willing to step forward in ways and in directions that those around them are too afraid it. In ways that others don't understand. 

The life you want is on the other side of risk. Do you know what stands in the way of taking the risks you know you ought to take to get there?

Indecision.

Indecision has the ability to stop you from living the life you want to live. It can prevent you from taking the bold steps necessary to go forth in the direction you want to go and wastes time. So, by the end of this post, you'll know exactly how to steer clear of indecision so you can start living the life you want to live.

The first thing you'll want to do is: Be very specific about what you want to accomplish. You're going to need to drill down exactly what a particular goal is going to help you accomplish. If you want to overhaul your website, decide why. What about your current website is not working for you and figure out how you a redesign will help fix this. If you want more people to see your YouTube videos and your current strategy isn't working - do more than just pick a new strategy. Figure out how your new strategy is different from your current one so you can decide if it's worth the time investment involved. 

This line of thinking works when you're trying to organize your time or items in your life. If you have a space in your home that tends to collect junk. Before you go to organize it, figure out what about it doesn't work and how your solution will help to solve it. 

Think with the end in mind. A lot of the time, when I'm indecisive about something, I think about what I need the outcome to be. If I need to save money for a family vacation, I know that I need to make adjustments that will allow me to actually get to that goal. If I figure out that I need to dedicate an hour of extra time per week to develop a new product for my business, I know I need to find that hour, somewhere in my schedule so I'm able to achieve that goal. Doing anything less means only one thing - I'll be unable to accomplish my goal. By thinking and planning with the end in mind, you are able to figure out exactly what needs to be done and limit the power that indecisiveness can hold over your life. 

Another really important reason to think with the end in mind is that it will constantly remind you of why you're doing the incremental, often not so fun steps that come between where you are today and where you hope to be sometime in the future. Keeping the goal/hope/dream/wish at the top of your thoughts will help you plow through when you feel like giving up because you'll have a better grasp of the fact that this is only a temporary but important part of the journey. 

Take a break. There are going to be times when you need to take a break from it all so you can gain perspective. If you find that you keep bouncing back and forth between whether you want to do something or don't want to do something, give yourself some space away from making the decision by focusing on something else. This will allow you to clear your mind and give you the thinking space that you need to come to a decision in a less forced manner. 

Stop being afraid. I've seen it time and time again with myself and those around me - indecisiveness often comes from a fear of the unknown. You end up paralyzed in fear because you are afraid of how your decision is going to affect your future. You're afraid that your decision will lead to unintended consequences and often, those consequences can feel dire when you imagine them in your head. But I'm here to tell you that:

You are equipped with everything that you need to not only stare your fears in the face but not overcome anything potentially adverse outcome that may happen from any decision that you make.

Stop treating every decision in your life as if it's life and death. Deciding what you want for lunch should not carry the same amount of thought as deciding who you want to marry. I truly believe that indecision comes from not wanting to make mistakes. Wanting to consider and then come up with the perfect solution to the problem at hand. 

Give yourself permission to make mistakes.

Because mistakes are what allow you to grow into the person your supposed to be.